start of something new

I recently read a blog post about the new decade being the most important decade of our lives for a lot us. We're going to be graduating, getting our dream jobs, getting married and maybe even starting a family. And no joke, after I had read this post I just sat there proper deeping it. The upcoming years are going to be insane and full of obstacles that we're going to have to face but it's always important to remind yourself that you've got to always put yourself no matter what but also that there's no rush to get everything done within a certain age or time.

we're all growing old

I feel like we've always been given these 'deadlines' to achieve certain things, maybe there's more pressure in Asian communities but it's always been the idea that as soon as you finish university at the age of 21, it's start your job and get married as soon as you can. Especially as there's this weird thing that Tamils believe that the older you get the more unattractive you become. Meaning that it'll be harder for you to find someone and get married. And honestly that's crazy to me because when I was younger, even though I hated the idea of getting married, I believed that it was achievable, getting married by the age of 25/26 and it just makes me realise that my sense of time or just life in general was so off!

It's laughable now because I'm not graduating at the age of 21 with the rest of my friends. Which at first, it scared me, the idea of being behind whilst everyone else moved on. But honestly I'm so glad that I've longed out my life the way I have because things worked out for the best and I'm glad that things are the way that they are now. But when I was younger I would have never thought I wouldn't be graduating at 21 and to be fair my parents probably felt a bit weird about it too but what can we do about it now? But me not graduating at 21 is already 'delaying' this 'path' that's been created.

Another thing is marriage. Marriage. It's crazy how so many of us are going to get engaged, married, start families in a few years. It's so weird because it feels as if it was only yesterday we were choosing our GCSEs and whatnot, but it's even crazier how some people are already married. This whole concept lowkey scares me, especially when there's so much pressure as the oldest child in the family. My parents really don't want to go through the whole arranged marriage thing, they really want me to find someone and be happy, which, as nice as that is, knowing I have that liberty, it's also frustrating. One reason why is because arranged marriage would make my life so much easier and as long as I can get on with the other person it's fine, you know? But because that's not going to be the case it means that I actually have to do something which is long. But there's so much pressure, my mum randomly asking whether I've got a boyfriend sometimes scares me because I'm just like omg??????? I'm supposed to be with someone. I've literally never been with someone what does she expect? But at the same time you've got to remind yourself that you can't force these things to happen, you can't force someone to fall in love with you and you can't force yourself to like someone either. And honestly only now I'm kind of coming to terms with the whole idea of 'dating', before I found the whole thing extremely scary, still is scary but you know we move. But there's no rush.

There's no rush to anything, finishing your degree, getting into relationships, getting a job. This might be the biggest decades of our lives, but it doesn't mean that you have to rush into everything to make sure that you comply to this timeline that's been created for you. It's your life and your happiness that comes first. That degree isn't going to go anywhere, if you need to take a break, take a break. If you want to travel after you finish your degree, go ahead and travel. If you want to marry your significant other, get married. If you wanna be wild, be wild xD, No one is stopping you apart from yourself. But do it on your own terms and not anybody else's.

So to wrap things up,
Prioritise yourself, forget about this path that you're supposed to technically follow and create your own !
HAPPY NEW YEAAAR :)

Signing out x
Sweena.